Cohabitation is the worst. For real.

So I suck at blogging but I'm working on it. Today's topic is cohabitation. Nothing could be worse for a relationship! It's so sad and interesting to me that couples think that they have this secret to making marriage work and it's living together before marriage. WRONG! Couples who cohabit have an 80% break up rate. Why is this you may ask? There isn't a whole lot of research on this topic but there are some great insights.

1) Couples who cohabit live separate lives instead of blending their lives like married couple do.
2) Men and women who cohabit want different things. The women eventually wants to get married whereas the man could care less, and who would blame him? He has a free prostitute living with him.
3) When couples cohabit they don't give up their old single life. They still put friends, video games, activities, etc. over their partner.
4) Couples who cohabit have no legal obligations and therefore they don't trust each other. Either partner could get up and leave at anytime or either partner could go on a wrecking spree through the house.
5)The more people cohabit the higher their tolerance of divorce.

Let's paint these problems out more clearly in a game:
Think of your bank account. In this game you have to give me a filled out check but I get to fill out the amount. You can do one of three things now. 1) You could block your account completely, giving me no money. 2) You could block your account just a little bit controlling how much money I get to take out. 3) You can trust me and give me full access to your bank account.

So it is with cohabitation vs marriage. When you cohabit you don't give your full self or your full assets. Married people actually pool together more money quicker than cohabitating couples, they have more talents and more fun than cohabitating couples.

The bottom line here is DONT COHABITATE!!! If you are cohabitating do yourself a favor and leave. If your boyfriend/girlfriend wanted to be with you, you would have a ring on your finger and you would be a lot happier right now. So get out, prove yourself wrong with how strong you are, and start your life on the happy path. If you have trouble believing this post I invite you to have an open mind and try it. You are avoiding an 80% break up rate (and growing) if you take my advice.

Sad Day But Hopeful

A few days ago I was really sad because I found out that the best celebrity couple, Amy Poehler and Will Arnett, got divorced last September! I decided to do some research to find their reasoning. I found out that they got divorced because they felt more like best friends then a married couple. How lame is that??? Wouldn't that be perfect to marry your best friend? And why in the world would you want to date again especially as a celebrity? And they have two kids. It's just so sad that they didn't cherish what they had and that they broke up for the same reason I'm getting married.

I do not believe in divorce unless there is abuse of any kind going on in the marriage. Divorce is sad!! Why would you just give up after years of trying? And especially if you have children! No one thinks of the children but the children think of everybody. To a child it's like their two favorite people hate each other and often times the children think that they are the cause of the split, causing more psychological problems for the child.Divorce is understandable, but still ridiculous that our country has around a 50% divorce rate. And 75% of those divorced couples go on to get married again. I think it is interesting that we are all seeking the acceptance that marriage brings but we are killing it at the same time. We kill marriage by being selfish and not willing to help our marriages grow, people cohabit (which I could go on and on about and most likely will later), people put off getting married until "they are ready", and honestly, the list goes on and on. We NEED to protect marriage, especially our own. We need to remember that the grass is the same on both sides of the fence we just need to put out the effort to make our side greenier.
On that note. I hope you all have a wonderful week and "try a little harder to be a little better."~Gordon B. Hinckley

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Hello, my name is Jaide and I want to be a marriage and family therapist. The family is the most important unit in the world. Families are who you run to, who you laugh with, who you cry with, who you put up with, and who you have the deepest connections with. I love families! I believe in families, I support families, and I want to help families.