Education is the most powerful tool. Parents need to step it up!

Yes, I believe education is the most powerful tool...When it is used in the correct way. Educating children on how they can do anything they set their mind to is great. Learning about history, science, geography, health, art, and PE are empowering tools for any age. However, when it comes to sex education, the new curriculum is NOT ok. Teaching 11 year olds sex positions? NO! Who the heck though that was a good idea? Teenage pregnancy anyone? Parents need to step up! Don't let your children be taught by the world because the world is going down hill fast. Remember when cussing wasn't on TV? Yeah me either. But really, what happened to the Brady Bunch and family values? Now it's Modern Family and Glee. Do you really want these to be your child's view of family values or values in general? Parents, if you don't step up, who will?

In the New York Times article, Does Sex Ed Undermine Parental Rights? Robert P.George and Melissa Moschella state:  "Parenting, especially in moral and religious matters, is very important and highly personal: while parents enlist others’ help in this task, the task is theirs. They are ultimately responsible for their children’s intellectual and moral maturity, so within broad limits they must be free to educate their children, especially on the deepest matters, as they judge best. This is why parental rights are so important: they provide a zone of sovereignty, a moral space to fulfill their obligations according to their consciences."

It is the parent's responsibility to teach their children especially on this important topic of sexual relations. Parent's need to start early and keep confidences in the home. Create a family bond by keeping this topic an ongoing topic.

"Preparation for maintaining an appropriate level of confidence in marriage begins in the family. Here a child learns to treat family “business” at home rather than to share it with friends or neighbors. There are situations that occur between family members that are not discussed with persons outside the family circle. Commonly held confidences create a bond of love that encourages greater unity and develops greater loyalty among family members." - A Parent's Guide

The solution? I am calling on all parent's to take a stand on their child's education! Learning is wonderful when you are learning and teaching in the right light! Children are magnificent people who have impeccable observation skills. That being said, be the example you need to be! Teach them what they need to know, love your spouse only and completely, and be there for your child when they have questions. Be an advocate in your child's education. Don't you dare just stand by and let the world teach them. BE THE TEACHER YOUR CHILD IS ENTITLED TO AND THE TEACHER YOUR CHILD DESERVES!

Cohabitation is the worst. For real.

So I suck at blogging but I'm working on it. Today's topic is cohabitation. Nothing could be worse for a relationship! It's so sad and interesting to me that couples think that they have this secret to making marriage work and it's living together before marriage. WRONG! Couples who cohabit have an 80% break up rate. Why is this you may ask? There isn't a whole lot of research on this topic but there are some great insights.

1) Couples who cohabit live separate lives instead of blending their lives like married couple do.
2) Men and women who cohabit want different things. The women eventually wants to get married whereas the man could care less, and who would blame him? He has a free prostitute living with him.
3) When couples cohabit they don't give up their old single life. They still put friends, video games, activities, etc. over their partner.
4) Couples who cohabit have no legal obligations and therefore they don't trust each other. Either partner could get up and leave at anytime or either partner could go on a wrecking spree through the house.
5)The more people cohabit the higher their tolerance of divorce.

Let's paint these problems out more clearly in a game:
Think of your bank account. In this game you have to give me a filled out check but I get to fill out the amount. You can do one of three things now. 1) You could block your account completely, giving me no money. 2) You could block your account just a little bit controlling how much money I get to take out. 3) You can trust me and give me full access to your bank account.

So it is with cohabitation vs marriage. When you cohabit you don't give your full self or your full assets. Married people actually pool together more money quicker than cohabitating couples, they have more talents and more fun than cohabitating couples.

The bottom line here is DONT COHABITATE!!! If you are cohabitating do yourself a favor and leave. If your boyfriend/girlfriend wanted to be with you, you would have a ring on your finger and you would be a lot happier right now. So get out, prove yourself wrong with how strong you are, and start your life on the happy path. If you have trouble believing this post I invite you to have an open mind and try it. You are avoiding an 80% break up rate (and growing) if you take my advice.