Marriage is such a wonderful gift. You get to be in love with your best friend, you get to live with the one you love, you get to have inside jokes, make traditions together, and have a teammate through all the struggles of life. I heard once that marriage is God's gift to you and the quality of your marriage is your gift to God. The quality of your marriage is something that needs to be cared for, it's not something that just happens like in the books and movies. It takes hard work, forgiveness, and courage. It takes selflessness and a great deal of faith. Just like anything else that takes hard work, it's so worth it! Marriage is meant to last forever which means that it might be difficult to see the worth of the constant hard work. May I suggest that we stop looking to tomorrow when things will be better. Make looking to see the worth of your marriage a daily ritual. Thank your spouse daily for the little things they do. We all know that it's really the small things that matter most anyways.
The title of this post is my challenge for this week. Make your marriage the best gift ever! This really takes a conscious effort. Here are a few suggestions, these are general because every couple is different and you know what your spouse needs.
1) Forgive. Forget that list of wrongs you have stashed away somewhere in your brain. Forgive the human mistakes your spouse makes. Along with this goes your expectations. I think it's more fun to not have any expectations and instead be pleasantly surprised. Get rid of those unrealistic expectations!
2) Serve. I believe in magic and here is my reasoning- when you forget about your needs and wants and instead look outward and try your best to help others, somehow, someway, your needs are met. If you don't believe me try it!
3) Look for the good and lookover the bad. When you dwell on the negative everything seems to go wrong. That shouldn't be a surprising concept. Let's turn that around, look for the positive. Fawn Weaver, author of the NYT best seller, "Happy Wives Club" said, "Keep choosing happiness and happiness will keep choosing you." I think that this is worth trying.
I know this is a small list but the way I see it is that everyone is different with different ways of making their marriage a gift. If you have other suggestions for making marriage the best gift ever, please feel free to comment and leave your suggestions!
These are the thoughts of the family advocate.
2 comments:
Jaide, You are awesome. We are impressed with your ability to communicate so well with all age groups. Your thoughts are so good and will work most of the time.
When those ideas are applied successfully they do work. Thank goodness that we do forgive each other when we aren't successful.
Keep up the good work.
GRANDpa and GRANDma Spradlin
Thanks! Do you have any ideas for future posts?
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